As the quarter ends.. i realized what a change taking this feminism class has made.. How it has impacted me.. As a woman, i now realize the different labels society gives me.. The powers and rights that are deprived of me.. I just wanted to thank the professor for enlightening me to many issues i would not have otherwise been aware of.. I now look at music differently, i now have a different and higher respect to women who are out there trying to make themselves better and trying to be someone in the community.. I now question many practices we have as a society and wonder if this is how it should be. I mean, that is what education should do right? It should open our eyes, make us aware of issues outside of us, it should raise questions that could and should make people want to change and do something about these issues.
“….hopping a plane to rap to someone else’s “community” while your son struggles alone with the Junior Scholastic assignment on “The dark Continent” is not revolutionary. sitting around murder-mouthing incorrect niggers while your father goes upside your mother’s head is not…
"One writes out of one thing only- one’s own experience. Everything depends on how relentlessly one forces from this experience from the last drop, sweet or bitter, it can possibly give. This is the real concern of the artist, to recreate out of the disorder of life that order which is art. The difficulty then, for me, of being a negro writer was the fact that I was, in effect, prohibited from examining my own experience too closely by the tremendous demands and the very real dangers of my social situation."
- James Baldwin, Autobiographical Notes from Notes of a Native Son (via livinginthelostage)
"We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him. The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.” The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked. “So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to."
Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women.
This anecdote is a smart, concise portrayal of male privilege and the glaring realization that women must deal with feeling unsafe every single day. Very rarely does society guide and enforce men to create an environment that is safe for all genders; however, society is constantly coaching women on how to be safe, how to “avoid” being sexually harassed. And perhaps it’s the simple fact that male privilege is widely unrecognized or addressed is equally as shocking.
"When I was in college, a teacher once said that all women live by a ‘rape schedule.’ I was baffled by the term, but as she went on to explain, I got really freaked out. Because I realized that I knew exactly what she was talking about. And you do too. Because of their constant fear of rape (conscious or not), women do things throughout the day to protect themselves. Whether it’s carrying our keys in our hands as we walk home, locking our car doors as soon as we get in, or not walking down certain streets, we take precautions. While taking precautions is certainly not a bad idea, the fact that certain things women do are so ingrained into our daily routines is truly disturbing. It’s essentially like living in a prison - all the time. We can’t assume that we’re safe anywhere: not on the streets, not in our homes. And we’re so used to feeling unsafe that we don’t even see that there’s something seriously fucked up about it."